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Uncluttering My Life: TCC Episode 42

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Project started April 10, 2015
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Today's Episode

  • Uncluttering My Own Life
  • Seeing the Forest from the Trees
  • Letting Go
  • 4 Ways I'm Uncluttering

Uncluttering My Own Life

I have to be flat out honest. My office became a closet. I was spread myself thin with my coffee business, dissertation, podcast, and still itching to write that novel or screenplay. I wasn't doing good service for anyone, including myself.

My son, David, was really trying to help me get uncluttered. Even told me how and what to Read/Listen to. He recommended that I listen to or read Unstuff Your Life: Kick the Clutter Habit and Completely Organize Your Life for Good by Andrew J. Mellen.

Seeing the Forest from the Trees

I'm a kinesthetic learner, which means I need someone to show me what you're talking/writing about. I was at wits end until I sought professional help. I got that help from Cathy of Elite Personal Assistants in the Chicago Area. She helped me create my zones based on what I do, which include my coffee business, dissertation and research, podcast and blogging, and creative writing. I had to learn to let go of stuff.

Letting Go

I had to get tough on myself and realize it's just stuff. Mellen (2010) suggested that in order to move forward you have to let go of those things that are holding you back. I had to let go of my attachment to things. I have thing I cherish like my lighthouses, Bilbo Baggins' sword Sting from the Hobbit and Lord of the Rings, dream catchers, and Albert Einstein. The rest is clutter.

4 Ways I'm Uncluttering

What I am doing to Unclutter:

  1. Ask yourself: what do I do in this office and what do I need
  2. Define the sections in the room
    • Coffee Business - My financial support. Will be stored in repurposed closet
    • Dissertation and studies - Graduate by July 2015. Will be in bookshelves on one wall
    • Podcasting and Blogging - Passion. Will be shelving by desk and computer
    • Novel and Screenwriting - Passion. Will be in bookshelves on another wall
  3. Everything has a place
  4. Put like with like

 What I've done so far!

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Progress as of 4/15/15
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Desk Area
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The Closet Area

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

References:

Mellen, A. (2010). Unstuff your life!: Kick the clutter habit and completely organize your life for good. New York: Avery.

Links:

Elite Personal Assistantshttp://eliteforyou.com/

Unclutter Your Life – TCC Episode 38http://danhansen.com/unclutter-life-tcc-episode-38

Unstuff Your Life: Kick the Clutter Habit and Completely Organize Your Life for Good by Andrew J. Mellen

Books:

 

Last Day First Day: TCC Episode 40regrets

Live this day as if it will be your last. Remember that you will only find "tomorrow" on the calendars of fools. Forget yesterday's defeats, and ignore the problems of tomorrow. This is it. Doomsday. All you have. Make it the best day of your year. The saddest words you can ever utter are, "If I had my life to live over again..." Take the baton, now. Run with it! This is your day!
~ Og Mandino, Author and Motivational Speaker

Today's Episode:

  • Last Day
  • How to Make Your Last Day Your First Day

Last Day

I had a near death experience many years ago. My father was there to meet me before I went into the light. He told me that it wasn't my time and I had something to do. I realized that God or the Universe wanted me to just pick something to do to make a difference in the world. It took me a minute to figure it out.

What if you discovered that you only had minutes to live and the world was coming to the end. What would you do? Who would you call?

Willhite (2000) suggested that today is the first day and the last day of the rest of your life. There are no guarantees that tomorrow will come. Why not live as though today were the last day of your life. Would you live your life more fully?

Mandino suggested that, with so little time, there is no time to hate, gossip, or fighting only time to love, encourage, or finding joy. Willhite (2000) continued that we should all be busy doing and being that we have no time for anything but accomplishing good.

How To Make Your Last Day Your First Day

  1. Step outside your comfort zone - Face a fear, make a new friend, do something uncomfortable like public speaking or starting a blog
  2. Do something spontaneous - Start that bucket list and start doing some of them
  3. Tell someone you care about or love them - Whether they be a spouse, child, or a complete stranger

References:

Mandino, O. (1968). The greatest salesman in the world. New York: F. Fell/Bantam Books.

Willhite, T. (2000), Living synergistically, PSI Seminars, Retrieved from http://www.livingsynergistically.com/download/LivingSynergisticallyEBook.pdf

Books:

Each Day is a Special Gift - TCC Episode 37god_gift

Each day is a special gift from God, and while life may not always be fair, you must never allow the pains, hurdles, and handicaps of the moment to poison your attitude and plans for yourself and your future. You can never win when you wear the ugly cloak of self-pity, and the sour sound of whining will certainly frighten away any opportunity for success. Never again. There is a better way.
~ Og Mandino, Author and Motivational Speaker

Today's Episode

  • Each Day is a Special Gift
  • How to Make Each Day A Gift

Each Day is a Special Gift

You could say life isn't fair or life deals you a bad hand. In my case, I thought I'd have my job for a long time since I was a Department Head and Tech Coordinator, important positions (I thought). It's interesting how you don't appreciate something until it has been taken away. I did attend that ugly self-pity party for a while, got stuck in anger. Then I was able to turn it around.

It's how we respond to life's challenges that's important. Hill (2005) stated that with every adversity holds the seed of a greater or equal opportunity. I started my own business and now go back and sell my wares at the same place that laid me off. What if there was no tomorrow? We are never guaranteed a tomorrow. Everyday above ground is a good day. Make the most of each day.

How to Make Each Day A Gift

  1. Thank God for What You Have - your family, friends, health, business, etc...
  2. Tell Your Family That You Love Them - make sure they know how you feel before it's too late
  3. Help Someone Else - When you help someone else succeed, you'll succeed
  4. Make a new friend - join a group or organization, go back to school
  5. Smile - especially to that person you see in the mirror everyday
  6. Make each moment count - don't waste time, we all get the same 24 hours a day

Go the Extra Mile

Less than 30 days to help keep the St. Martin De Porres House of Hope going into the future.

My goal is to sell 10,000 boxes of coffee in January to help raise most of if not all the $40,000 needed to keep their doors open. Buy 3 or 4 boxes at WantMyCoffee.com. 80% of all profits will be donated to the St. Martin De Porres House of Hope.

Links:

House Of Hope-1
A Visit to the Last House on the Block ~ Carol Marin, Chicago Sun-Times


References:

Hill, N. (2005). Think and Grow Rich. S.l.: Duke Classics.

Books:


Your Actions Speak for You - TCC Episode 36actions-words

Today's Episode:

  • Rule #6 of A Better Way to Live
  • Actions Speak Louder than Words
  • 2015 Goals
  • What Are Some Actions You Can Do
  • Go the Extra Mile

 Rule #6

Let your actions always speak for you, but be forever on guard against the terrible traps of false pride and conceit that can halt your progress. The next time you are tempted to boast, just place your fist in a full pail of water, and when you remove it, the hole remaining will give you a correct measure of your importance.
~ Og Mandino, Author and Motivational Speaker

Picture placing your fist into a pail of water. Take it out. Wow, no hole. If that measures our importance, there is no hole. Does it we we have no importance, no to me it means that your words carry no weight but your actions do. Your actions speak volumes!

Actions Speak Louder than Words

It's a new year! Most people have made resolutions. Let your actions speak for you by making your dreams come true.

I had to stop talking and start doing. How could I ask someone to do something I wasn't willing to do or have done myself. I like to lead by example. I will be the best example I can be.

My goals for 2015:

  1. Continue to take off weight and weigh 220 pounds by June 12, 2015
    • Make a Decision
    • Create that mental image of your desired weight
    • 30 Day Coffee Challenge
    • Eat Healthy
  2. Build my International Gourmet Coffee Company and become a coffee millionaire by June 30, 2015
  3. Finish my dissertation and graduate with my Ph.D. by July 2015

In order to make 2015 my year! To have the most amazing life, I asked myself, "What actions can I do that I didn't do in 2014?" Following are some action that I will work on in 2015:

  • Show my company to 400 people in the next 180 days
  • Sample coffee to 10 people a day
  • Write more than once a week other than my Podcast show notes
  • Write at least 15 minutes a day
  • Complete my book projects
  • Finish my dissertation

What Are Some Actions You Can Do

  1. Create some goals and dreams
  2. Make a Decision
  3. Write them down and picture it in your mind
  4. Take action everyday to achieve your goals and dreams
  5. Create an accountability system

Go the Extra Mile

Less than 40 days to help keep the St. Martin De Porres House of Hope going into the future.

My goal is to sell 10,000 boxes of coffee in January to help raise most of if not all the $40,000 needed to keep their doors open. Buy 3 or 4 boxes at WantMyCoffee.com. 50% of all profits will be donated to the St. Martin De Porres House of Hope.

Links:

House Of Hope-1
A Visit to the Last House on the Block ~ Carol Marin, Chicago Sun-Times

Books:

The Maroon  Bells
The Maroon Bells. My favorite place on the planet so far.

A Foundation of Pleasant Thoughts - TCC Episode 35

Build this day on a foundation of pleasant thoughts. Never fret at any imperfections that you fear may impede your progress. Remind yourself, as often as necessary, that you are a creature of God and have the power to achieve any dream by lifting up your thoughts. You can fly when you decide that you can. Never consider defeat again. Let the vision in your heart be in your life's blueprint. Smile!
~ Og Mandino, Author and Motivational Speaker

Today's Episode:
  • Thoughts are things!
  • Foundation of Pleasant Thoughts

Thoughts are things!
The foundation of the story of Peter Pan is "Think Happy Thoughts." It gave Peter the power to soar like an eagle. In the movie Hook, Peter became a man and forgot that lesson of thinking happy thoughts. It took a group of kids and the thought of losing his son, to see what made him happy.

I first heard the words "To think is to create" in 2003.

  1. Thought are Things (Prentice Mulford, 2008):
  2. Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve (Napoleon Hill, 2007)
  3. The Law of Attraction, The Secret (Byrne, 2006)
Foundation of Pleasant Thoughts
  1. C.H.A.N.G.E. - Choosing Happiness And Never Give Excuses
  2. Picture what you want - I'm reworking my vision board to add pictures of more things I want.
  3. F.O.C.U.S. - Follow One Course Until Successful ~ Robert Kiyosaki (Rich Dad, Poor Dad). Keeping that picture and those decisions to be happy at the forefront of your mind.

References:

Byrne, R. (2006). The secret. New York: Atria Books.

Hill, N. (2007). Think and grow rich. S.l.: Duke Classics.

Kiyosaki, R., & Lechter, S. (2000). Rich dad poor dad: What the rich teach their kids about money that the poor and middle class do not! New York: Warner Business Books.

Mulford, P. (2008). Thoughts are things. Waiheke Island: Floating Press.

Books:




Reward Yourself with Family - TCC Episode 34desmondtutu-family

Always reward your long hours of labor and toil in the very best way, surrounded by your family. Nurture their love carefully, remembering that your children need models, not critics, and your own progress will hasten when you constantly strive to present your best side to your children. And even if you have failed at all else in the eyes of the world, if you have a loving family, you are a success.
~ Og Mandino, Author and Motivational Speaker

Today's Episode:

  • Your children need role models not critics
  • How to be a Positive Influence

Your children need role models not critics

My 5 F's or core values are Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, and Finance. My second one is family. We just went through the holidays surrounded with family and loved ones. Why not do that more often?

I had to break some old patterns passed from generation to generation. I made a decision to be there for my children. I made a decision to be a positive influence on his life.

How to be a Positive Influence

  1. Positive talk: When my son was very young, I talked positively to him as he slept telling him that he's the best and that he's loved.
  2. Take time to be with family: Why wait for the holidays, graduation or funeral to surround yourself with family.
  3. Be a positive role model: Show don't tell that you stand for something better than yourself. Show that you affect others positively.

Tis the Season for Giving (Going the Extra Mile)

Less than 54 days to help keep the St. Martin De Porres House of Hope going into the future.

Tis still the season for giving and still coffee makes a great gift. My goal is to sell 10,000 boxes of coffee to help raise most of if not all the $40,000 needed to keep their doors open. Buy 3 or 4 boxes at WantMyCoffee.com. 50% of all profits will be donated to the St. Martin De Porres House of Hope.

Links:

House Of Hope-1
A Visit to the Last House on the Block ~ Carol Marin, Chicago Sun-Times

Books:


Don't Look Back - TCC Episode 33dont_quit

Whenever you make a mistake or get knocked down by life, don't look back at it too long. Mistakes are life's way of teaching you. Your capacity for occasional blunders is inseparable from your capacity to reach your goals. No one wins them all, and your failures, when they happen, are just part of your growth. Shake off your blunders. How will you know your limits without an occasional failure? Never quit. Your turn will come.

~ Og Mandino, Author and Motivational Speaker

“The past does not equal The future. Because you failed yesterday; or all day today, or a moment ago, or for the last six months; the last 16 years, or the last fifty years of life doesn’t mean anything…All that matters is what are you going to do, Right Now.”

- Anthony Robbins, American self-help writer and professional speaker.

 Today's Episode:

  • Your Past Doesn't Equal Your Future
  • Don't Look Back

Your Past Doesn't Equal Your Future

Mandino (1990) suggested, rule 3 for a better way to live, that when you make a mistake or life knocks you down, don't dwell on it too long. Robbins (1991) suggested your past doesn't need to equal your future. Thomas Edison found 9,999 ways not to make a lightbulb.

I've made a few mistakes along the way. There are lessons to be learned. Sometimes I'll make the same mistake again and again, means I need to try something different. There are somethings you can do to help you not to dwell on past mistakes.

Don't Look Back

  • Picture your dreams: Create a vision board, write down your goals and dreams, read them everyday, create affirmations
  • Don't Quit: Just keep showing up. Persistence pays.

References:

Mandino, O. (1990). A better way to live. New York: Bantam Books.

Mandino, O. (1968). The greatest salesman in the world. New York: F. Fell.

Robbins, A. (1991). Awaken the giant within: How to take immediate control of your mental, emotional, physical & financial destiny. New York, N.Y.: Summit Books.

Links:

CANI - Blog post about Constant And Neverending Improvement 

House of Hope - Podcast Episode 32

Books:


House of Hope - TCC Episode 32house of hope bldg

Today's Episode

  • Champion a Cause
  • Interview with Sr. Therese O'Sullivan
  • Tis the Season for Giving (Going the Extra Mile)

Champion a Cause

I first heard of the House of Hope a few years ago from a close friend of the family, Cathie. Last week Cathie called for asking for donations and support. We discussed their Internet based fundraising campaign. I gave her a few tips for promoting it on social media. Then I thought of my mission to Help Other People Everywhere (HOPE) and took this as a sign. A cause I could Champion.

Interview with Sr. Therese O'Sullivan

I visited St. Martin De Porres House of Hope,located in the Woodlawn neighborhood of Chicago, recently and interviewed Sr. Therese O'Sullivan. She talked about the House of Hope and her hopes for the future. The House of Hope is a converted Catholic grammar school to a shelter for homeless women.

Tis the Season for Giving (Going the Extra Mile)

Less than 68 days to help keep the House of Hope going into the future.

Christmas is coming and coffee makes a great gift. Buy 3 or 4 boxes at WantMyCoffee.com or donate directly to the link below. A large portion of all profits will be donated to the House of Hope.

Links:

House Of Hope-1
A Visit to the Last House on the Block ~ Carol Marin, Chicago Sun-Times

 

 

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Go the Extra Mile: TCC Episode 31extramile

Today, and everyday, deliver more than you are getting paid to do. The victory of success will be half won when you learn the secret of putting out more than is expected in all that you do. Make yourself so valuable in your work that eventually you will become indispensable. Exercise your privilege to go the extra miles, and enjoy all the rewards you receive. You deserve them!
~ Og Mandino, Author and Public Speaker

Today's Episode:

  • Today, and everyday, deliver more than you are getting paid to do
  • Go the Extra Mile

Today, and everyday, deliver more than you are getting paid to do.

You can start right where you stand and apply the habit of going the extra mile by rendering more service and better service than you are now being paid for.

Og Mandino, The Greatest Salesman in the World, tells the tale of a young camel boy, Hafid, who asks his master to become the greatest salesman in the world like him. His motivation was he wanted to change station because he was in love with the daughter of a rich man. His master sent him into  Bethlehem and sell the fines robe money could by. After being in Bethlehem and about to give up he remembered why he was doing it.

He heard a noise outside the cave he was in. He saw a man, woman, and a baby wrapped in the parents robes. He felt sorry for the poor baby shivering in the night, gave the parents their robes back and wrapped the infant in the robe his master sent to sell. He went back to his master was coming up with all sorts of excuses for not selling the robe.

As Hafid approached the camp where his master wait in awe as a star rose up behind the approaching boy. Tears welled up in his eyes for he had witnessed a miracle. Hafid told the tale of how he went the extra mile and failed, to sell the robe. His master assured him he did not fail and gave him the secrets to happiness and wealth.

Sometimes you don't get paid for your services. Still go out there and be your best. Go out into the world with your head held high. There are many things you could do to go the extra mile.

Go the Extra Mile

  1. Do what others aren't willing to do
  2. Add a smile
  3. Say Hello
  4. Create a relationship
  5. Say please and thank you

Books:

Count Your Blessings: TCC Episode 30count  your blessings

Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play and you will finally be able to move forward toward the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage and confidence.
~ Og Mandino, Author and Motivational Speaker

Today's Episode:

  • Counting Your Blessings
  • List Your Blessings
  • Happy and Grateful Affirmations

Counting Your Blessings

Count your blessings. You are one of a kind. There's no one in the world like you. You are amazing.
Richard Simmons, Fitness Guru and Motivational Speaker

Dr. Norman Vincent Peale tells a story about a man who lost everything. Had that man sit down and started listing off the things he did have. He listed things like his health, loving wife, good kids, a brain to think with, etc...

I've been there and may be you have too. I realized that I'm in a recession when my neighbor loses his/her job. It's a depression is when it happened to you. Instead of dwelling on those things you lost, start listing what you do have and be grateful for them. Life is too short!

List Your Blessings

  • Faith - I still have a God that loves me even though I forget to tell him/her
  • Family - I have a good wife mother to my great son, my mother is still with us, my brothers, and my Organo Gold family
  • Friends - I have friends who support me
  • Fitness - I've lost 86 pounds. I can still speak, hear and see. I can move around easily. I still have a few hairs on my head.
  • Finances - I will be a coffee millionaire. I have a roof over my head. My car gets me to where I need to be.

Happy and Grateful Affirmations

In the movie, The Secret, I heard the statement I am happy and grateful now that... and you fill in the blank. These are affirmations that you can use to take you to your hopes and dreams.

I am happy and grateful now that I have a loving family that supports me.

I am happy and grateful now that I am a Diamond in Organo Gold living the number one lifestyle in the World.

I am happy and grateful now that I have the freedom to help and serve other people everywhere.

Richard Simmons, Count Your Blessings, http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/blessings_3.html#ss843g02sfBBOe5f.99

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