I first heard of the House of Hope a few years ago from a close friend of the family, Cathie. Last week Cathie called for asking for donations and support. We discussed their Internet based fundraising campaign. I gave her a few tips for promoting it on social media. Then I thought of my mission to Help Other People Everywhere (HOPE) and took this as a sign. A cause I could Champion.
Interview with Sr. Therese O'Sullivan
I visited St. Martin De Porres House of Hope,located in the Woodlawn neighborhood of Chicago, recently and interviewed Sr. Therese O'Sullivan. She talked about the House of Hope and her hopes for the future. The House of Hope is a converted Catholic grammar school to a shelter for homeless women.
Tis the Season for Giving (Going the Extra Mile)
Less than 68 days to help keep the House of Hope going into the future.
Christmas is coming and coffee makes a great gift. Buy 3 or 4 boxes at WantMyCoffee.com or donate directly to the link below. A large portion of all profits will be donated to the House of Hope.
Today, and everyday, deliver more than you are getting paid to do. The victory of success will be half won when you learn the secret of putting out more than is expected in all that you do. Make yourself so valuable in your work that eventually you will become indispensable. Exercise your privilege to go the extra miles, and enjoy all the rewards you receive. You deserve them!
~ Og Mandino, Author and Public Speaker
Today, and everyday, deliver more than you are getting paid to do
Go the Extra Mile
Today, and everyday, deliver more than you are getting paid to do.
You can start right where you stand and apply the habit of going the extra mile by rendering more service and better service than you are now being paid for.
Og Mandino, The Greatest Salesman in the World, tells the tale of a young camel boy, Hafid, who asks his master to become the greatest salesman in the world like him. His motivation was he wanted to change station because he was in love with the daughter of a rich man. His master sent him into Bethlehem and sell the fines robe money could by. After being in Bethlehem and about to give up he remembered why he was doing it.
He heard a noise outside the cave he was in. He saw a man, woman, and a baby wrapped in the parents robes. He felt sorry for the poor baby shivering in the night, gave the parents their robes back and wrapped the infant in the robe his master sent to sell. He went back to his master was coming up with all sorts of excuses for not selling the robe.
As Hafid approached the camp where his master wait in awe as a star rose up behind the approaching boy. Tears welled up in his eyes for he had witnessed a miracle. Hafid told the tale of how he went the extra mile and failed, to sell the robe. His master assured him he did not fail and gave him the secrets to happiness and wealth.
Sometimes you don't get paid for your services. Still go out there and be your best. Go out into the world with your head held high. There are many things you could do to go the extra mile.
Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play and you will finally be able to move forward toward the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage and confidence.
~ Og Mandino, Author and Motivational Speaker
Counting Your Blessings
List Your Blessings
Happy and Grateful Affirmations
Counting Your Blessings
Count your blessings. You are one of a kind. There's no one in the world like you. You are amazing. ~ Richard Simmons, Fitness Guru and Motivational Speaker
Dr. Norman Vincent Peale tells a story about a man who lost everything. Had that man sit down and started listing off the things he did have. He listed things like his health, loving wife, good kids, a brain to think with, etc...
I've been there and may be you have too. I realized that I'm in a recession when my neighbor loses his/her job. It's a depression is when it happened to you. Instead of dwelling on those things you lost, start listing what you do have and be grateful for them. Life is too short!
List Your Blessings
Faith - I still have a God that loves me even though I forget to tell him/her
Family - I have a good wife mother to my great son, my mother is still with us, my brothers, and my Organo Gold family
Friends - I have friends who support me
Fitness - I've lost 86 pounds. I can still speak, hear and see. I can move around easily. I still have a few hairs on my head.
Finances - I will be a coffee millionaire. I have a roof over my head. My car gets me to where I need to be.
Happy and Grateful Affirmations
In the movie, The Secret, I heard the statement I am happy and grateful now that... and you fill in the blank. These are affirmations that you can use to take you to your hopes and dreams.
I am happy and grateful now that I have a loving family that supports me.
I am happy and grateful now that I am a Diamond in Organo Gold living the number one lifestyle in the World.
I am happy and grateful now that I have the freedom to help and serve other people everywhere.
Richard Simmons, Count Your Blessings, http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/blessings_3.html#ss843g02sfBBOe5f.99
Jim Rohn said the same wind blows on us all and the difference is how we set the sails to take us to our hopes and dreams. I decided to draw a line in the sand and set sails towards happiness, health, and wealth. My mission is to help other people everywhere and if I can help you realize some of your dreams then mission accomplished.
In my blog post, Better Way To Live, I mention a book I pulled off the shelf A Better Way to Live by Og Mandino. I started reading it and decided that it was time to apply the principles in this book. I will blog about each rule and discuss them over the next several weeks.
Mr. Mandino was talking right to me. He invited me into his writing sanctuary and gave me a personal tour. I have worked to create a similar work space because it sounded warm and inspiring. He also talked about his background where I found a few similarities especially finding out the same winds had blown on his life. Then he turned and told me his solutions.
Mr. Mandino's solution have become my goal; to take my own life and apply the rules found in the book. Mandino (1990) gave us the 17 Rules for a Better Way of Life and the descriptions for each.
17 Rules for a Better Way to Liveby Og Mandino
Count your blessings. Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play and you will finally be able to move forward toward the life that God intended for you...with grace, strength, courage and confidence.
Today, and every day, deliver more than you are getting paid to do. The victory of success will be half won when you learn the secret of putting out more than is expected in all that you do. Make yourself so valuable in your work that eventually you will become indispensable. Exercise your privilege to go the extra miles, and enjoy all the rewards you receive. You deserve them!
Whenever you make a mistake or get knocked down by life, don't look back at it too long. Mistakes are life's way of teaching you. Your capacity for occasional blunders is inseparable from your capacity to reach your goals. No one wins them all, and your failures, when they happen, are just part of your growth. Shake off your blunders. How will you know your limits without an occasional failure? Never quit. Your turn will come.
Always reward your long hours of labor and toil in the very best way, surrounded by your family. Nurture their love carefully, remembering that your children need models, not critics, and your own progress will hasten when you constantly strive to present your best side to your children. And even if you have failed at all else in the eyes of the world, if you have a loving family, you are a success.
Build this day on a foundation of pleasant thoughts. Never fret at any imperfections that you fear may impede your progress. Remind yourself, as often as necessary, that you are a creature of God and have the power to achieve any dream by lifting up your thoughts. You can fly when you decide that you can. Never consider defeat again. Let the vision in your heart be in your life's blueprint. Smile!
Let your actions always speak for you, but be forever on guard against the terrible traps of false pride and conceit that can halt your progress. The next time you are tempted to boast, just place your fist in a full pail of water, and when you remove it, the hole remaining will give you a correct measure of your importance.
Each day is a special gift from God, and while life may not always be fair, you must never allow the pains, hurdles, and handicaps of the moment to poison your attitude and plans for yourself and your future. You can never win when you wear the ugly cloak of self-pity, and the sour sound of whining will certainly frighten away any opportunity for success. Never again. There is a better way.
Never again clutter your days or nights with so many menial and unimportant things that you have no time to accept a real challenge when it comes along. This applies to play as well as work. A day merely survived is no cause for celebration. You are not here to fritter away your precious hours when you have the ability to accomplish so much by making a slight change in your routine. No more busywork. No more hiding from success. Leave time, leave space, to grow. Now. Now! Not tomorrow!
Live this day as if it will be your last. Remember that you will only find "tomorrow" on the calendars of fools. Forget yesterday's defeats, and ignore the problems of tomorrow. This is it. Doomsday. All you have. Make it the best day of your year. The saddest words you can ever utter are, "If I had my life to live over again..." Take the baton, now. Run with it! This is your day!
Beginning today, treat everyone you meet, friend or foe, loved one or stranger, as if they were going to be dead at midnight. Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.
Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat of the moment. Banish tension and concern and worry with laughter at your predicaments, thus freeing your mind to think clearly toward the solution that is certain to come. Never take yourself too seriously.
Never neglect the little things. Never skimp on that extra effort, that additional few minutes, that soft word of praise or thanks, that delivery of the very best that you can do. It does not matter what others think, it is of prime importance, however, what you think about you. You can never do your best, which should always be your trademark, if you are cutting corners and shirking responsibilities. You are special. Act it. Never neglect the little things.
Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a selfstarter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail.
You will achieve your grand dream, a day at a time, so set goals for each day-not long and difficult projects, but chores that will take you, step by step, toward your rainbow. Write them down, if you must, but limit your list so that you won't have to drag today's undone matters into tomorrow. Remember that you cannot build your pyramid in twenty-four hours. Be patient. Never allow your day to become so cluttered that you neglect your most important goal-to do the best you can, enjoy this day and rest satisfied with what you have accomplished.
Never allow anyone to rain on your parade and thus cast a pall of gloom and defeat on the entire day. Remember that no talent, no self-denial, no brains, no character, are required to set up in the faultfinding business. Nothing external can have any power over you unless you permit it. Your time is too precious to be sacrificed in wasted days combating the menial forces of hate, jealousy and envy. Guard your fragile life carefully. Only God can shape a flower, but any foolish child can pull it to pieces.
Search for the seed of good in every adversity. Master that principle and you will own a precious shield that will guard you well through all the darkest valleys you must traverse. Stars may be seen from the bottom of a deep well, when they cannot be discerned from the mountaintop. So will you learn things in adversity that you would never have discovered without trouble? There is always a seed of good. Find it and prosper.
Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.
Brainstorming (2014) is the pondering of ideas in order to come up with a solution, a new book idea, overcoming writers block, or finding your brand. I like brainstorming ideas for screenplays, novels, or dissertation or podcast ideas. I find it fun and easy to do. I've even brainstormed this podcast.
Brainstorming this podcast. I worked with Dave Jackson, of the School of Podcasting, and Erik K. Johnson, your Podcast Talent Coach. We looked at my passion of personal development, hypnosis and coffee. Then we looked at my challenges as an online student working on my PhD. I wanted to find connections with my other classmates, instructors and like minded people like you. That's how The Coffee Couch was born.
The questions that were the starting point for my podcast:
Who is my audience? I chose graduate students in their 40s to 50s. I came up with that by googling the average age o of online students about 35 to 40. I wanted to include people my own age who started later than most. I think of my fellow classmates in my dissertation cohort when I record.
What do I know? I know about online learning, social media, personal development, hypnotherapy, the dissertation process, and coffee.
What am I passionate about or love? I passionate about making a difference and helping others. I want to see you succeed.
What does my audience love? I started looking at statistics from the hits to blog posts. I found that my information on the dissertation writing, personal development and coffee got the most views. That is still a mystery. Let me know what you're passionate about?
Subscribe to Blogs or Podcasts: Find our what others are thinking about what you're passionate about.
Funnel Approach: Take a broad topic, Start narrowing it down, keep tightening until you have a specific topic.
Put ideas in a hat: Take small pieces of paper, write your ideas on each one (no limit), and then pull out 3. Write those 3 ideas in a notebook or your journal. See what you get.
Get together with your mastermind group: Sit down with friends, instructors, writers group, or even your family They might not get what you're working on but you never know what will come up.
I love my coffee business and what it has done for me physically and financially. This last weekend my buddy, while helping his coffee business, kept referring to other network marketing programs he was involved in. After the event was over he told me about his success at losing 19 pounds over the past few months and made me one of his shakes to try.
I said, "I've lost 83 pounds with my coffee and capsules (danhansen.com/13) since the beginning of June 2014", which is very significant since I don't work out or starve myself. I realized I was very happy and grateful for my coffee company and the benefits it provides me and my family. My buddy was trying to get me to be a customer for a product that I have tried in the past without the success I'm having now.
Shakes are good, they provide nutrients and stuff, but I forget to make one as I'm running out of the house with my coffee. I have to ask why should I buy another shake product when I have several in my house that have probably expired like my stationary clothes hanger.
I probably should have said no but he said to get his coffee in, he adds it to the shake. I thought, "how interesting make me one of those". I tried it both ways and loved the one with the coffee. Gee! it tasted like my mocha only cold with a teaspoon of peanut butter. I feel a new coffee recipe coming on, peanut butter mocha.
How to Resist Temptation
Just say NO - For some that could be difficult especially if you work real hard to help others. Clear (2014) suggested that learning to say no should be a developed skill to help you in any endeavor. I have to agree.
Remember Your Goals and Dreams - Ask yourself will this take me away from or toward my goals and dreams
Who are you listening, What are you reading - if you hang around and listen to people who are living your dream, you'll more then likely succeed especially if you imitate them and do what they do. Hill (1937) suggested that you should have a mastermind alliance and surround yourself with people who will help you reach your goals and dreams.
Clear, J. (2014). How to say no, resist temptation, and stick to your health goals. Retrieved from http://jamesclear.com/how-to-say-no
Project 10K is a fundraising project to raise $10,000, through coffee, for Lurie's Children Hospital and other Children's Miracle Network Hospitals to Help Save Kids Lives! For every box of coffee, tea, or any of our products at ExtraLifeCafe.com, 100% of the profits will be donated to Extra-Life!
What is a scholar-practitioner
Walden University's (2014) goal is to help students become scholar-practitioners by challenging them to integrate scholarly research with their own expertise as skilled practitioners in their fields. In other words, research what you do in your field of work or industry by creating improvements in your field or positive social change. My field of study is social media, hence the podcast. I want to improve student retention rates.
What is Positive Social Change
Walden University (2014) defines positive social change as a commitment to improving the human and social condition by creating and applying ideas to promote the development of individuals, communities, and organizations, as well as society as a whole. I am committed to changing social conditions in graduate studies either online or traditional by bridging the gap between brick-and-mortar and click-and-mortar.
Exploring the Impact of Social Media on Student Retention in Graduate Programs: A Delphi study
Forecast trends in
Social media (Connectedness)
Student retention (Persistence)
You are the expert
Make Improvements in your field or industry
Create Positive Social Change
Walden University. (2014). Introduction. Walden University Catalog. Retrieved from http://catalog.waldenu.edu/content.php?catoid=106&navoid=27845
Simon, M. K., & Goes, J. (2013). Dissertation & scholarly research: Recipes for success. (2013 ed.). USA: Dissertation Success, LLC.
I have slightly modified because I discovered one more thing that added value for me. I use it to work with my goals and dreams to become millionaire as an owner of an International Gourmet Coffee Business, writer, and public speaker. The mental fast has helped me gain better mental clarity and prioritize what's important.
November is not only NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writers Month) but also has 30 days in it, whink means a great time for doing the Mental Fast. As a writer this is perfect because it incorporates time to read. I read everything from journal articles for my research and books on personal development to fiction and books on how to improve my craft.
"Think Like a Giant" Jerry Clark
30 Day Mental Fast (Modified)
No TV, Newspapers, or Radio - I found them not only a horrible time waster but also a huge source of negativity
No Negativity - Not only in what you listen to but also your words
Read a Good Uplifting Book for 15 minutes - As a writer I find this easy. I not only read books like Think and Grow Rich, The Magic of Thinking Big but also some fiction and non-fiction to help improve my writing craft
Associate with positive people - I have several mentors or mastermind alliance, as Napoleon Hill talks about in Think and Grow Rich, who range from my business mentors Dr. Walker and Michael Hyatt of This is You Life Podcast. I have my PhD mentors Drs. Walter McCollum, Anthony Lolas, Marilyn Simon and Brandon Hamilton. I have writing mentors K.M. Weiland, Writing Excuses Podcast, Joanna Penn of the Creative Penn Podcast,
Exercise for 15 minutes a day - I always feel better and gets the blood moving
Reflection Time for 15 minutes a day- I sometimes stretch this out to an hour because I will often work on meditations that I will record. I have been working on a meditation script I found what I wrote 21 years ago for my hypnosis practice. I like experimenting on myself.
I was diagnosed with pre-diabetes and morbid obesity with an A1C of 7.1 and weighed in at 380 lbs over a year ago, when I was laid off from Chicago Public Schools in June 2013. My doctor suggested that I start taking medicine or lose weight. I discovered over the years after trying many weight loss products and fad diets that I had to change my approach. Robbins (1991) suggested that your past doesn't equal your future. This meant I had to do something different.
In March 2014 I was stuck just over 345 until May when I had a chance to hang with the millionaires in my coffee company. I was sitting in the back of a coach bus with 2 (Mr. Jose Ardon and Ivan Alberts) who were talking about driving Ferrari's on the Autobahn in Germany and shot me a challenge to join them. I knew to do that I needed to have the financial freedom to do that and lose weight so I could travel comfortably. I reached a point of being sick and tired of losing and gaining weight.As of my last physical my A1C was 5.1. My last weigh in, I was 306. This time it had to be permanent and part of my scholarly journey.
How This Applies to Your Scholarly Journey
Like any good race, you need to be in peak performance and have the stamina to get to the finish line. Those late night writing sessions. Preparing to defend your dissertation. As I have lost the weight I find that I have more stamina and some mental clarity. I found that when my health was failing so was my productivity. I want to look good walking across the stage at graduation too.
I started slowly and with great effort I had been losing a pound a week. Then in May 2014 when I made a decision, I kicked it into overdrive. Schwarts (1987) suggested that you are your own laboratory and can experiment on yourself. I did that and found my 4 steps that helped me lose 74 pounds.
4 Steps to Weight Loss
Make A Decision
To get healthy
To fit comfortably in booths and airplanes
To make it a permanent change
My Goal is 224 pounds, what I weighed on my honeymoon 1984
Create the Picture in Your Mind
Last time I weighed 224 was in 1984 (I will look for the picture)
I picture myself traveling all over the world in comfort and style
Goal is to race Ferraris on the Autobahn in Germany
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